Have you ever secretly admired someone and never be able to express the feeling?
Raise your hand if you do! There are a few reasons why we can't say love to the object of our affection. First, they already have a boyfriend/girlfriend. Second, he/she is just unreachable (differences in social status, economy, even sexual orientation). Third, it's better to secretly love them rather than making them your girl/boyfriend. According to some people, they choose to be the third one as it won't lead into any complication and they can still love them without ruining the relationship.
Admiring someone from a distance has its own beauty. I think, keeping someone from a distance is actually harder than pulling someone to be really close. Let say, I'm someone who's full of confident. Then when I like someone, I will just make them mine straight away. But to keep someone from a distance and still keeping in touch with them, that's the beauty that has its own pleasure.
Imagine a kite. Between the string that is attached between the holder and the kite, there's a big distance. Sometimes, the kite will go closer and sometimes it will go further. As high as it can go, as long as the string is still attached, the holder will always be able to see the kite in the blue sky. The kite game is very fun. Can we imagine playing the same game to the person that we secretly admired?
When we love someone from a distance, we only see the beauty of it. It's like when we view the mountain that is very pretty from far away. Lets try to hike the mountain and we will know how cruel it is. Loving someone from a distance means we crystallized their beauty and won't be disturbed by all of their weaknesses as a human.
Sadly, not everyone is able to do that. When the desire to get closer and a strong will can't be restrained, many will end up doing stupid things that they later regret. In many cases, distance is safety. But distance can also be an emptiness that longs to be filled. The ability to secretly loving someone from a distance is a love pleasure that has a different feeling.
With technologies and the presence of social media, what's interesting from secretly admiring someone is of course reading what our object of affections writes. Never forgets and always make a time to know how they are doing. What differentiates between reading the person that we like and those who we secretly admired is of course the feeling when you read their writings. To those who we secretly admired, there's no feeling of heartache or disappointment or anger when we know their thoughts and feelings. What's there is feeling of happiness and joy looking at them growing and be more mature.
In my case, secretly loving someone means viewing them from a distance, but still keep them as a close friend. If I can't be a close friend, then it's still fine. It's enough by only admiring them from a distance, as there's pleasure that doesn't differ much from kissing our lover. Secretly loving someone means secretly having them in our heart, filling the empty space that can't be replaced.
- Translated from Indo Article -
